Ways To Get Natural Backlinks To Your Blog

Link building is very crucial to rank your sites on search engines. For example Google loves sites with a high number of relevant pages linked to them and so ranks such a site higher than the others. But link building or getting quality backlinks is much crucial to survive a Google update like Penguin. So it is therefore essential to have a natural or organic backlink profile to stay on the safe side.
Basically organic backlinks are the ones that are naturally created by the sites, social profiles and blogs that refer to your site just because it has great and complete content on a topic and include a link back to your site as a reference or citation.
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One of the greatest examples of a site with huge natural or organic backlinks isWikipedia which enjoys huge love from search engines like Google and Bing. Wikipedia has content that the general world refers to and enjoys a domain authority of 100 (a rare feat) by open site explorer.
Advantage of organic backlinks:
  1. Organic backlinks help you to get thumbs up by search engines.
  2. This is a good way to getting known to the audience of a site that you have no access to.
  3. Eventually it will increase your credibility in your niche and help you in getting known as an authority figure (just remember it doesn’t happen overnight).
Chris Guillebeau in his book 279 days to overnight success (page 68) has rightly said..
I couldn’t figure out who first said that, but it is absolutely true. No one will give you links without you earning them. To earn them, you will need to do something remarkable. When you receive inbound links it’s like getting paid. This may be literal if you have ads or products, but if not you are being rewarded with new readers.

How to Get Natural / Organic Backlinks:

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Getting natural or organic backlink is something you earn so your efforts have to be phenomenal and so luring that linking back is achieved without having to pay or ask someone. Here are the methods to get quality organic backlinks.

1) Write great and epic content:

Remember Wikipedia above, the single reason for people and sites including blogs linking to it is that, it has content that is rare to find elsewhere. Similarly your blog’s content has to be detailed and complete. We have to also keep in mind that detailed and complete posts need not be lengthy always.
Matt Cutts talks about organic link building in his video “Is there such a thing as building too many links“.
Great content can be done with the following ways:

a) Stir a controversy:

Controversial topics tend to grab the eye balls faster than others and you can easily get so many backlinks to your site based on the number of people interested in the topic. Having said this, I would suggest you to stay away from the legal side of things.

b) Write a great case study:

Case studies are your observation or log of something that you have been concentrating on since a specific time. Now you write a case study about it on the site. This type of content enjoys the attention of sites that want to include those details on a project of theirs. This is the safest and the easiest way to get organic backlinks. The backlinks can be obtained by this strategy for years in the future too.

c) Provide facts and figures on a finding:

This is yet a great step to earn backlinks because your facts and figures on a particular topic will be linked by people writing or researching on the topic at the bibliography (the sources found at the end of a book) or footnotes. One man who has earned a huge status as a social media examiner is Dan Zarella, and people never mind paying him a link.

d) vlogging or video blogging:

Videos are great tools of expressing your ideas and views and are a magnificent way of back linking. The two most popular video sites hosting millions of videos are YouTube (of course) and Vimeo. These sites have tremendous views and subscriber list and it is easy for people getting back to your site by the links you provide at the description section.
You don’t have to be a camera specialist nor do you have to buy costly equipment’s for getting your videos picked up. A simple PowerPoint presentation converted to video format or a tutorial recorded by you through a screen casting software like Camtasia would be enough. Remember the content should be quality in the videos too and essentially related to your niche. For example, you can check my Tech niche YouTube channel over here.

2) Get a “Link to us page” or section:

If you have content worth linking to, there is no harm in making an appeal to your readers to link to your content. This can be done with CTA or call to action buttons or mere providing with banners and HTML codes that when a reader uses on his site automatically links back to yours.

3) By networking and getting seen in places with potential readers (read linkers).

a) Conferences, live events and press events:

These are the best places to hangout in if you want to get noticed. Remember blogging is all about exposure. Building connections can help you in getting more friends and eventually they will introduce you to their audiences. This way you are sure to create some real meaty organic links.

b) Forums:

Forums had been the go to places for all sorts of building connections and link backs to your sites pretty some time back. But after the advent of social media forums have been in the backstage though forum marketing still works if you do it smart.
How to get started with forums: Conduct a Google search with “your keyword or niche” + “forum” or you can use boardreader too. Once you have access to a community check if they allow signatures or not (because these are the places you will put your links on). If they provide join them. Write some quality topics and contribute before attaching a signature right away.

c) Q & A based sites:

Sites like yahoo answers have great value when building quality and free backlinks are concerned, provided you give quality service to their reader community. Quora is another one that has achieved great success.

4) Social media sites:

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Social media sites also allow you to put links in your BIO section and have a great value as far as SERPs are concerned.
TwitterTwitter offers to add a number of links in your BIO section provided they are limited to 140 characters. Try not adding more than three or else it might appear spammy.
FacebookFacebook personal profile as well as pages has a huge potential for adding links to sites that you own.
Google PlusGoogle Plus has an unlimited capacity of accumulating your links the only condition being NOT to make it spammy.
PinterestPinterest gives one high value backlink to your site that you have chosen to be displayed at your BIO section.
LinkedIn: LinkedIn provides an option of three backlinks to your favorite sites along with customized anchor text (though it has little or no value as far as SEO is concerned, using a wise anchor text will provide a great influx of traffic to your site).

5. Relationship Blogging,

Building relationship among fellow bloggers and with authority bloggers in your niche can have surprising benefits in creating natural backlinks. Try hanging out with them on their blog, and on their favorite social media site too. You can grab their attention by commenting on their posts, asking for a help and thanking them for a certain idea that they shared.
When it comes to thanking them, you should always approach a personal way by emailing them. The email should not be long and should be formal, saying them that their post has helped you and would love to read more topics like this.
This way you can come under their radar and you can soon build a relationship that can result in an exchange of links. I have many good blogging friends among whom is Ana Hoffman of Trafficgenerationcafe.com and this led me harvest a link on the much looked up to blog.

6. Release your earning report:

Releasing your earning report might not get along well with many but if you are one of them who would proudly show up the result of your hard work you can have an added benefit as well. Yes, many blogs and magazines show up reports based on top bloggers who earned the highest (can be yearly or monthly) and chances are you might get featured in those articles thus making sure a link back to your site or a post.

7. Organize a link carnival:

Many bloggers and pro bloggers conduct a weekly or monthly link carnival or thankful posts in which they place an excerpt of famous bloggers’ (or their friends) posts that has been written within that time period. This is an exceptional way to show your love and build connection with an additional advantage of building high quality backlinks too. You can refer to what engagement superstar Adrienne Smith does here.

8. By giving Interviews and conducting them too

Interviews are the best way to build relationship with pro bloggers. Interview posts generate huge readership, especially if the interviewee is someone very authoritative in the field. For taking interviews of such personalities you have to first build a rapport with them (check the previous two points for knowing how). If you succeed to entice a figure well known in the niche you are not only getting a chance of hijacking some of his readers, but also ensuring a link back from his blog.
And if you want yourself to be interviewed you have to first build a solid track record and then help your fellow bloggers and juniors selflessly. This way they will come to know you and might get interested in publishing your interview. You can easily ask for two three do follow backlinks as you might seem right.

9. Create a unique and helpful tool that comes handy for your industry

If you are good at technical aspect of something or may be simply the skills like HTML or programming knowledge why not leverages that into something that would earn you tremendous organic backlinks that are Google safe.
See here the page findmyfacebookid.com. It’s a single page website offering a great tool and has 20K+ visitors and alexa rank 26K. This type of tolls in your website (although as a PAGE) can help them get linked when users write a topic related to them or on resource pages of websites like mine.

10. Conduct a Massive blogger outreach and a post on what they say on a topic.

Conduct a post on the opinion of a number of influential bloggers on a topic and put up that post. After making the post live don’t hesitate to forward the post link to the members included in the post. Most will feel happy to share them across their audience and chances are some might even link them to their posts.
My post about How To Promote Blog Posts is based on the same strategy where I compiled the views of 8 influential bloggers in the industry. Check out that post and see the content quality, social shares and number of comments. ;)

11. Broken Link checking:

Over the years, many sites come and go and it is potentially impossible to keep a record of all the pages that you have linked. So, find out the broken links of any website and send them a simple formal email saying you have detected a broken link on their website and would replace it with a great resource of yours that has similar content.
Mostly you will hear an approval answer from them. This time, make the reply a bit personal and you can include the link detected along with the link you want it to be replaced with (obviously from your blog!). Also include some additional details that would make a good opinion about your site on them and they wouldn’t deny.
You must check this post of Kristi Hines on Search Engine Journal to learn “How to Use the Broken Link Building Strategy to Get Links”.

12. Benefit from content scrapers

Potential content thieves make it literally impossible to protect content. However you can make use of this opportunity by linking to your own posts within the article (also known as interlinking). These content scrappers are lazy enough to check the internal links and will not remove your links thus you at least enjoy a free backlink.
Secondly, you can use the WordPress plugin called RSS footer to add a link to your blog after every post.
P.S. Although this method might seem lucrative I wouldn’t recommend this method as a free backlink generator as this would include you amongst the known of potentially penalized sites (content scrappers never have a quality blog) and might put you as a thorn in the eyes of Google, doing more harm than good.

13. Creating graphics, media that can be reused:

You can also create awesome memes, images, video tutorials and infographics that would go viral in the blogosphere. Try adding a humor quotient or make them a GO-TO complete guide. This way it will attract sites that would like them to be included in their posts, now make a condition that your products if used should be attributed a designed backlink. Voila and you are done. Many sites like quicksprout, whoishostingthis.com earn HUGE number of backlinks through infographics.
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My infographic about Genesis Framework Review helped me to get good number of natural backlinks without much efforts. Give it a try and surely it will work like a charm for you.

14. Alexa ranking

Although alexa ranking have more benefit to your own site than link building, decreasing your alexa ranking to a record low will attract fellow bloggers to include your site in list posts like Top 10 bloggers based on alexa etc., and will give you a genuine backlink. I have earned many quality backlinks for this site from sites like BloggersPassionSocialSamosa etc. by this awesome trick.

15. Profile links:

Many membership sites and forums have option to include your website link in your BIO thus enabling you to get a backlink worth feeling proud of (well, not all sites provide quality backlinks). But if a site does, that should never be missed.
You can also get awesome backlinks (though Nofollow) from social media sites mentioned above on point four.
Example: CrunchBase (sign up here).

16. Be a woman:


Strange as it may sound, this method is potentially proven (read it here). Sending an email or approaching as a woman in order to link exchanges or guest post request has great results as compared to doing the same as a man (P.S. I don’t patron gender based discrimination here, it is the statistically proven data).

17. Guest Posting:

While Matt Cutts, Google’s anti-spam head, has said that guest posting as a source of link building is severely a crime in the eyes of Google, still genuine guest posts (Not all) including a link (Not always) that is relevant to the context, inside the post can be tried.
If you are not in hurry, then I recommend you to read this effective guest blogging guide.

18. Reverse Guest posting:

The reverse guest posting tactic works wonders when done the correct way. By reverse guest posting I mean contacting potential guest poster (people in your niche who know their stuff well), and asking them to write an article on your blog on a topic that is relevant. This way you get free content from a highly qualified person, save your time and also get a link in the person’s portfolio. Eventually the guest writer might link to his, this post on his other subsequent posts, elsewhere. You can use the tool Followerwonk to find potential people to network in your niche.

19. Republishing the social posts that are already viral:

Sites like Facebook and tumblr are great places to find creative shareable stuff that can potentially go viral. You can compile a blog post based on a number of such posts, relevant to your niche. Remember, social republishing is ethical and legal provided you link back to the original sources of those articles.
Once you do this, such posts tend to go viral because of their visual attributes and many other blogs will possibly link back to your blog while citing them.

20. Be Newsworthy:

Being the eye candy of press releases and other top rated media events and producing news worthy articles pretty quick will often add a great chance of getting prestigious and high quality backlinks. For this, you need to have an eye of potential happenings in your niche and publish posts as and when the event happens. Live blogging is also a part of being news worthy. This will help you earn links from other sites on your niche that write a post on the event later. Sometimes, big sites can also be your source of getting free backlinks

How to Add Backlinks to Your Website or Blog

What do backlinks have to do with a website or a blog. Why should website and blog webmasters be concerned about getting high quality backlinks? Backlinks play a huge roll in getting visitors known as traffic to websites and blogs. Backlinks from different directories, blogs, websites, articles all help direct traffic to websites and blogs. This traffic translates into money and that is why high quality backlinks are so important.

BACKLINKS

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    Find backlinks. You can do a Google search for high quality backlinks, but never pay for links. You can go on related forums for more information on backlinks or read the Google Link Guidelines on what is required
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    Register or sign up for the sites that you will be leaving a backlink on. The registration or sign up procedure is straight forward and will usually have an activation link sent to your email.
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    Once you have clicked on the activation link, then you will be able to sign in.
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    Now that you are signed in, search for your profile button or control panel button (cp). Navigate to edit your profile.
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    Keep in mind that each website or forum that will give you a backlink is different. In some cases, you add your url address where indicated. In other cases, you also leave your url address in the signature box. Still, in other cases, you leave your url address in your bio section. It all depends and it is up to you to figure out, unless the backlinks have instructions.
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    With respect to the signature box and the bio (biography) box, you can leave 3 links to your site with key words.
    • For example key words can be: Best Ways To Make Money Online, Make Money Online From Home, Best Home Based Business. These are 3 examples of keywords that will contain the link back to the website. However, recent changes to the Google Guidelines will suggest that you don't use anchor rich keywords and you will be much better off with just a 'Click Here' or URL link.
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    In order to add the link to these keywords you will have to use HTML code or BBC code. It will be indicated. Here is an example of the HTML code: <a href="http://www.YOUR%20WEBSITE.com">KEYWORDS</a>
    • Here is the example of BBC code: [url=http://www.YOUR WEBSITE.com]KEYWORDS[/url]

Importance of Backlinks in SEO for a Website

We have been discussing SEO a lot at OldASSOCIATES and one thing in particular you have found us talking the most and that is backlinks. Have you ever thought or wondered what’s the importance of backlinks and why it’s important for your site SEO.
If you are a newbie and looking to get an answer, then read on. Backlinks are one of the important aspect of SEO.
Backlink is a most talked about term in the World of blogging.Why everyone talk about this term. Is it really that much important for any blog?
The answer is Yes. The next question came in our mind is how and why?
Importance of Backlinks in SEO
Baclink is important in terms of SEO of the blog. More the backlinks more the credibility of the blog. But there are more and more factors involves in the deciding factors of SEO.Lets discuss one by one. But before discussing this lets discuss what actually the backlink is.
What are Backlinks?
Backlinks are links that directed towards your website or a blog.Backlinks are also known as inbound links. Backlinks are important in terms of SEO because more the backlinks more the chance of your website to come on top of search engines. Many search engines include the backlinks factor in deciding feature of search engine algorithm.In easy words if your website has a more number of backlinks then your website is more credible in Google‘s eye. So would you satisfied with all the links coming from any sites?
You shouldn’t because when search engines manipulate the relevance of a site to any keyword, then number of Quality inbound links to that site is a deciding factor. Now the question is

Why Backlinks are important:

Now, lets look into the tough part first and understand why backlinks are important from a search engine perspective and why you need to work on building tons of quality links to your blog. Now, here I’m not talking about building those crappy links which you can easily create by hiring some one on Fiverr, but I’m talking about those natural links which point to your site via other people blog post, guest post or via commenting.
Search engine ranking:
One of the foremost importance of backlinks are better ranking in Search engine. When you get quality links to your pages on website, it will help improve the search engine ranking. Though the key is getting links with anchor text. If you are working on this strategy, keep a variation of anchor text (50-30-20%) and only get it from niche blogs or high and quality domains.
Faster indexing:
Now, when ever you create a new site, the major problem is letting Google index it quickly. With backlinks from an active site (Which is crawled frequently), you can easily index your site in no time. I have shared a complete guide on the same on How to index your site in Google in 24 hrs.
Page Rank:
Backlinks, directly impact your page rank too. If you manage to get link back from high quality and high PR Site, you can always expect a good PR in the next update.
What are Quality backlinks?
Backlinks can come from any site that is related to content of website or from any other niche website. Suppose Shoutmeloud is a blog which tell us about blogging,technology and web 2.0 but the backlinks of the blog comes from any finance website then it would not be considered as a Quality backlinks. So the link coming from more relevant website would be considered as more important. For example if link is coming from any technology website then it would me more relevant because it is also a blog filled with content related to technology and web 2.0.
Note: People often make more than two websites and try to link all the website by generating lots of backlinks. This is a nice practice but you shouldn’t do this if your both sites are on the same IP. You can’t hide yourself from Google eyes, it will catch you and fine you.
Many of us play a link exchange game via blogroll, giving link of any site in exchange of our link. We must take care before this habit.If you exchange the link with a popular and trustworthy website then it is OK but if you link with any bad website then it would be hazardous to your website too.
The best practice of Link exchange will be making a tripod. Like Website A give a link back to Website B, Website B give a link back to website C and Website C give a linkback to website A. This way you will not be falling into the scheme of link farm and you will be getting link back on all your websites.
Importance of Commenting
Commenting on a dofollow website is famous amongst bloggers because it gives backlinks to our website. Depending on the blog comment attributes, with one comment you might be lucky to get a quality backlink and traffic. Though you should Follow a strategy view to add comments on blog.

Why the Quest to Prove Einstein Wrong?

Researchers are pushing Einstein's theory to the max, trying to see where it falters in order to connect gravity with the rest of physics.


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Why are researchers so intent on proving Einstein right or wrong? It’s not simply that he is a towering figure whose name is synonymous with genius, someone whose work has profoundly shaped physics for more than a century.

Do Black Holes Destroy Information?

Imagine that you want to make something disappear—that unfortunate photograph of you in the sombrero, or the ill-advised iPhone video from your bachelor party, or that part of your seventh-grade diary describing your dream honeymoon with Kirk Cameron. Whatever it is, you want it gone.
You could shred it, but a motivated blackmailer could still piece it back together. You could burn it, but the laws of physics still promise that the information could be reassembled. So you decide to turn to the ultimate destruction: You launch that mortifying evidence right into a black hole and breathe a sigh of relief that now, finally, it is gone for good.
But is it really?
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That question is at the heart of a problem that’s been called the black hole information paradox, and some theorists believe that it reveals a deep crack in the foundation of physics as we know it.
The pull of gravity inside a black hole is so strong that nothing can escape its grip. No one can fish your diary out from beyond the lip of the black hole; gravity’s pull on the fishing line would overpower your reel every time. And if a tech-savvy enemy tried to remotely link up with your iPhone and retrieve that embarrassing video, even the electromagnetic waves from your phone would still be trapped inside the black hole. To escape, they would somehow have to travel faster than the speed of light—and that is strictly forbidden by Einstein’s relativity.
But there is a hitch. Quantum mechanics has an equally strong rule that prohibits the loss of information. This principle, called unitarity, is intimately linked with other unbreakable laws of physics, like conservation of energy. “Conservation of information is what holds the world together,” says Steve Giddings, a physicist at the University of California, Santa Barbara.
To emphasize just how important information conservation is, Stanford physicist Leonard Susskind calls it the “minus-first” law of physics—“minus-first because I think it comes before everything else,” said Susskind in an online discussionsponsored by the Kavli Foundation. “If it’s true [that information conservation is violated], we go back to minus-first base.”
Now, you might argue that the information in the black hole isn’t truly lost. It’s just locked up and inaccessible. Theorists contented themselves with this view until 1975, when Stephen Hawking drew a revolutionary conclusion about black holes: Given enough time, a black hole will dematerialize, radiating away through a process we now call Hawking evaporation. And, according to Hawking’s accounting, that radiation would be random, revealing nothing of the black hole’s contents.
As Leonard Susskind wrote in “The Black Hole War,” his 2008 book on the problem of black holes and information loss, “The possibility of hiding information in a vault would hardly be a cause for alarm, but what if when the door was shut, the vault evaporated right in front of your eyes? That’s exactly what Hawking predicted would happen to the black hole.”
There is another possibility, though: Maybe this evaporation isn’t complete. Maybe it leaves behind a tiny ember that contains an enormously compressed version of all the information that ever fell into the black hole. “But this leads to some pretty crazy conclusions, too” says Giddings—specifically, you need to find a way for a single particle to take on infinitely many forms which, Giddings says, “results in equally disastrous consequences.”
This left physicists stuck between a rock and a hard place: Either information could be lost, or somehow something could escape from a black hole. A central tenet of quantum mechanics was pitted against the cornerstone of relativity. One theory, it seemed, had to give.
The debate went public in 1997, when Stephen Hawking and theoretical physicist Kip Thorne made a bet with John Preskill of Caltech that it would ultimately be shown that information was truly lost inside black holes. At stake: one encyclopedia of the winner’s choice, from “which information can be recovered at will.”
At the same time, and out of the media spotlight, string theorists were exploring a remarkable duality in their equations. They found that if you take a mathematical description of a system and add an extra spatial dimension and a negative curvature, you have something that looks very much like quantum fields in a three-dimensional universe without gravity. This observation sounds esoteric, but it gave mathematical chops to an idea called the holographic principle, which puts forward that all the information in our three (spatial) dimensional universe can be “stored” on a two-dimensional surface. In the context of the black hole information paradox, this suggested that information about the stuff in the black hole could somehow be encoded on the surface of the event horizon.
Still, the encyclopedia remained unclaimed as the bet dragged on, until 2004, when Hawking announced that he had changed his mind and was ready to concede. (Preskill’s prize: a baseball encyclopedia.) “My views have evolved,” he told Nature News. He published his results the following year.
To some theorists, Hawking’s concession came many years too late. “Stephen Hawking was like one of those unfortunate soldiers who wander in the jungle for years, not knowing that the hostilities have ended,” wrote Susskind in “The Black Hole War.” But others found Hawking’s explanation unsatisfying and, moreover, were irked at the public perception that one man’s change of heart had truly settled a debate that was still actively raging in the physics community. Still, there was a growing, if uneasy, consensus that this mathematical expression of the holographic principle, dubbed the anti-de Sitter/conformal field theory, or AdS/CFT, duality, pointed the way to a solution to the information problem, even if the roadmap was incomplete.
But now, we’ve hit another roadblock. A team of physicists out of the University of California, Santa Barbara has shown that if information thrown into the black hole is conserved, one of two other “unbreakable” rules of physics must give out. The first rule is that, once you’re a reasonable distance away from a black hole, the laws of physics work as usual. The second is that someone falling into a black hole would experience nothing “special” at the event horizon.
It’s that second rule, the Santa Barbara team argues, that is the weakest link in the chain. To protect the remaining postulate, they are willing to accept that something shocking might exist at the horizon: a “firewall” of broiling radiation that burns all that passes into a fiery crisp. Do they really believe that these firewalls exist? Probably not. But the possibility is enough to light a new fire (pardon the pun) under theorists.
Paradoxes and problems, after all, can drive great new discoveries. And, as science writer Jennifer Ouelette writes, “It comes at a time when theorists are hungry for a new challenge,” thanks to the maddening neatness of the Higgs result and physicists’ inability to spot cracks in the armor of the Standard Model.
So, back to that embarrassing thing you wanted to dump into the nearest black hole. Will it really be lost and gone forever? Will it burn up in a firewall, or be rewritten on a quantum screen at the edge of the universe? With the jury still out, perhaps you’ll do better just to hide it under the mattress.

I’m sure u will have tears in ur eyes.. during the climax !!!!!

I’m sure u will have tears in ur eyes.. during the climax !!!!!

This is a story of a Old man (around 80yrs old) an Ex HAL employee, Blore & also a part time Engineer. He has 4 children (2 daughters n 2 sons) who is happily settled in Blore city. They working as Inspectors, Engineers n IT professionals. The 80yrs old man (Mr.Ramakutty) is in Blore since 60+yrs n can speak & understand English, Tamil, Malayalam, Hindi & Kannada. I met him near Chinmaya Hosp, Indira Nagar. Infact he was trying 2 stop the motorist for a drop to the Old madras rd. I stopped.. He sat on my bike holding my shoulder tight (tighter than my GF holds me when I Zoom in my bike) He was heading to his rented home in Lingarajpuram ...where his 70+yrs wife is...She is bedridden since yrs. I asked the old man why ru on the rds in this freezing weather... He said for a JOB ???? I was stun to hear this from a 80yrs old man... I asked Why !!! he said 'To feed himself & his wife' I imdly stopped my bike n asked 'did u have ur lunch ? He said NO... I took him 2 the nearest tea shop bought him a tea n snacks. I could see some energy building in the old man’s body after having the food n later quietly he said ...he eats once a day only....to save money !!!! I asked him for his sons/daughters phone numbers...He hesitated to give... After 20min I asked him once again before dropping him to ring rd...He said 'they will scold him'… I asked Why will they scold u ? he said my children r annoyed with me n my wife coz I have not build them houses/bought anything till now !!!!

I was fortunate to meet him I could say.... I give my phone number & said 2 call if he needs anything... Now some will say 'good Job ' n others will 'click like' but this I'm posting for the 4 great children who thinks house, cars n money is bigger than parents !!!! SO PLZ SHARE ........ Im sure this info/message will go to his children.....MY HUMBLE REQUEST to all players... plz take care of ur parents.

Sweden's Prostitution Solution: Why Hasn't Anyone Tried This Before?

In a centuries deep sea of clichés despairing that 'prostitution will always be with us', one country's success stands out as a solitary beacon lighting the way. In just five years Sweden has dramatically reduced the number of its women in prostitution. In the capital city of Stockholm the number of women in street prostitution has been reduced by two thirds, and the number of johns has been reduced by 80%. There are other major Swedish cities where street prostitution has all but disappeared. Gone too, for the most part, are the renowned Swedish brothels and massage parlors which proliferated during the last three decades of the twentieth century when prostitution in Sweden was legal.

Sweden's Prostitution Solution:  Why Hasn't Anyone Tried  This Before?

In addition, the number of foreign women now being trafficked into Sweden for sex is nil. The Swedish government estimates that in the last few years only 200 to 400 women and girls have been annually sex trafficked into Sweden, a figure that's negligible compared to the 15,000 to 17,000 females yearly sex trafficked into neighboring Finland. No other country, nor any other social experiment, has come anywhere near Sweden's promising results.

By what complex formula has Sweden managed this feat? Amazingly, Sweden's strategy isn't complex at all. It's tenets, in fact, seem so simple and so firmly anchored in common sense as to immediately spark the question, "Why hasn't anyone tried this before?"

Sweden's Groundbreaking 1999 Legislation

In 1999, after years of research and study, Sweden passed legislation that a) criminalizes the buying of sex, and b) decriminalizes the selling of sex. The novel rationale behind this legislation is clearly stated in the government's literature on the law:

"In Sweden prostitution is regarded as an aspect of male violence against women and children. It is officially acknowledged as a form of exploitation of women and children and constitutes a significant social problem... gender equality will remain unattainable so long as men buy, sell and exploit women and children by prostituting them."

In addition to the two pronged legal strategy, a third and essential element of Sweden's prostitution legislation provides for ample and comprehensive social service funds aimed at helping any prostitute who wants to get out, and additional funds to educate the public. As such, Sweden's unique strategy treats prostitution as a form of violence against women in which the men who exploit by buying sex are criminalized, the mostly female prostitutes are treated as victims who need help, and the public is educated in order to counteract the historical male bias that has long stultified thinking on prostitution. To securely anchor their view in firm legal ground, Sweden's prostitution legislation was passed as part and parcel of the country's 1999 omnibus violence against women legislation.

An Early Obstacle in the Path

Interestingly, despite the country's extensive planning prior to passing the legislation, the first couple years into this novel project nothing much happened at all. Police made very few arrests of johns and prostitution in Sweden, which had previously been legalized, went on pretty much as it had gone on before. Naysayers the world over responded to the much publicized failure with raucous heckling, "See? Prostitution always has been, and it always will be."

But eminently secure in the thinking behind their plan, the Swedes paid no heed. They quickly identified, then solved the problem. The hang-up, the place where their best efforts had snagged, was that law enforcement wasn't doing it's part. The police themselves, it was determined, needed in-depth training and orientation to what the Swedish public and legislature already understood profoundly. Prostitution is a form of male violence against women. The exploiter/buyers need to be punished, and the victim/prostitutes need to be helped. The Swedish government put up extensive funds and the country's police and prosecutors, from the top ranks down to the officer on the beat, were given intensive training and a clear message that the country meant business. It was then that the country quickly began to see the unequaled results.

Today, not only do the Swedish people continue to overwhelming support their country's approach to prostitution (80% of people in favor according to national opinion polls), but the country's police and prosecutors have also come around to be among the legislation's staunchest supporters. Sweden's law enforcement has found that the prostitution legislation benefits them in dealing with all sex crimes, particularly in enabling them to virtually wipe out the organized crime element that plagues other countries where prostitution has been legalized or regulated.

The Failure of Legalization and/or Regulation Strategies

This Swedish experiment is the single, solitary example in a significant sized population of a prostitution policy that works. In 2003, the Scottish government in looking to revamp its own approach to prostitution enlisted the University of London to do a comprehensive analysis of outcomes of prostitution policies in other countries. In addition to reviewing Sweden's program, the researchers chose Australia, Ireland, and the Netherlands to represent various strategies of legalizing and/or regulating prostitution. The researchers did not review the situation where prostitution is criminalized across the board as it is in the US. The outcome of that approach is already well known. The failures and futility of the revolving door of arresting and rearresting prostitutes is all too familiar the world over.

But the outcomes, as revealed in the Univ. of London study, in the states under review that had legalized or regulated prostitution were found to be just as discouraging or even more discouraging than the traditional all round criminalization. In each case the results were dramatic in the negative.

Legalization and/or regulation of prostitution, according to the study, led to:

A dramatic increase in all facets of the sex industry,
A dramatic increase in the involvement of organized crime in the sex industry,
A dramatic increase in child prostitution,
An explosion in the number of foreign women and girls trafficked into the region, and
Indications of an increase in violence against women.
In the state of Victoria, Australia, where a system of legalized, regulated brothels was established, there was such an explosion in the number of brothels that it immediately overwhelmed the system's ability to regulate them, and just as quickly these brothels became a mire of organized crime, corruption, and related crimes. In addition, surveys of the prostitutes working under systems of legalization and regulation find that the prostitutes themselves continue to feel coerced, forced, and unsafe in the business.

A survey of legal prostitutes under the showcase Netherlands legalization policy finds that 79% say they want to get out of the sex business. And though each of the legalization/regulation programs promised help for prostitutes who want to leave prostitution, that help never materialized to any meaningful degree. In contrast, in Sweden the government followed through with ample social services funds to help those prostitutes who wanted to get out. 60% of the prostitutes in Sweden took advantage of the well funded programs and succeeded in exiting prostitution.*

* The full Scottish government report on prostitution policies can be seen at www.scottish.parliament.uk
So Why Hasn't Anyone Tried This Before?

Why, then, with Sweden's success so clearly lighting the way, aren't others quickly adopting the plan? Well, some are. Both Finland and Norway are on the verge of making the move. And if Scotland takes the advise of its own study, it will go in that direction too. But, the answer to the question of why other countries aren't jumping to adopt Sweden's plan is probably the same as the answer to the question of why governments haven't tried Sweden's solution before.

In order to see prostitutes as victims of male coercion and violence it requires that a government first switch from seeing prostitution from the male point of view to the female point of view. And most, if not virtually all, countries of the world still see prostitution and every other issue from a predominantly male point of view.

Sweden, in contrast, has led the way in promoting equality for women for a very long time. In 1965, for example, Sweden criminalized rape in marriage. Even by the 1980's there were states in the United States that still hadn't made that fundamental recognition of women's rights to control her own body. The Swedish government also stands out in having the highest proportion of women at all levels of government. In 1999, when Sweden passed its groundbreaking prostitution legislation, the Swedish Parliament was composed of nearly 50% women.

Sweden's prostitution policy was first designed and lobbied for by Sweden's organization of women's shelters and was then fostered and fought for by a bipartisan effort of Sweden's uniquely powerful and numerous female parliamentarians. Nor has Sweden stopped there. In 2002, Sweden passed additional legislation bolstering the original prostitution legislation. The 2002 Act Prohibiting Human Trafficking for the Purpose of Sexual Exploitation closed some of the loopholes in the earlier legislation and further strengthened the government's ability to go after the network of persons that surround and support prostitution, such as the recruiters, the transporters, and the hosts.

And Why Can't We Copy Sweden's Success Here?

While it's probably true that we and other countries are still much more steeped in patriarchal darkness than Sweden, there's no reason we can't push now for the policy changes that Sweden has made. The beauty of it is that once the ground has been broken and the proof of success has been established, it should be ever much easier to convince others to go down that path.



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Bed Time Story

bedtime story:

“Stop. You can’t love me because you’re lonely, or because I am the only one who doesn’t piss you off. I want to piss you off, I want to get on your fucking nerves. I don’t want the responsibility of always being your rock. I will try, but I’m a mess, too. I lie, I sleep too much and I don’t like children under the age of 6, really. I don’t even know if I want kids because I’m selfish, and mothers can’t be selfish once they decide to carry another life.

I’m always looking for the rain to come so I trip over my own feet. I know exactly what the air smells like before a storm.
Before you fall in love with me, I want you to know that I cry a lot because it feels good, and I masturbate at least 4 times a week, and you might fall out of love with me before either of us are ready for it.
I have no experience with this. I’m trying to be brave and smart but its almost impossible to be both at the same time.
You can’t love me like a fire escape. Sometimes I will be the match, or the smoke under the door. I don’t know what I’m doing, all I know is that we all catch fire sometimes, before we even get warm.
Before you fall in love with me, I want you to know that there’s a 50% chance that this won’t work, that one of us will wind up hating the other. I will try to keep your head above water, but sometimes I’ll need help, too.
I can’t be your savior, and I don’t expect you to be mine. Just watch me unfold and I’ll watch you unfold, too. We’ll get drunk and tell each other everything. I know that’s cheating but maybe it’ll be alright. Maybe we won’t wake up embarrassed.

I am going to fall in love with you, too, feet first. Maybe we’ll slow dance off a building together, maybe we’ll have forgotten each other’s names by this time next year. I don’t care, the sky is gray with or without you, so I’m not going to look up anymore, I’m going to look ahead .”